Elder L. Tom Perry of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles warned that preoccupation with material possessions is a behavior typical of those people in the great and spacious building:
“The current cries we hear coming from the great and spacious building tempt us to compete for ownership in the things of this world.
We think we need a larger home, with a three-car garage and a recreational vehicle parked next to it.
We long for designer clothes, extra TV sets (all with [DVDs]), the latest model computers, and the newest car.
Often these items are purchased with borrowed money without giving any thought to providing for our future needs.
The result of all this instant gratification is overloaded bankruptcy courts and families that are far too preoccupied with their financial burdens”
(in Conference Report, Oct. 1995, 45; or Ensign, Nov. 1995, 35).
Institute Book of Mormon Student Manual
Chapter 3: 1 Nephi 6-11 (spaced out)
Tuesday, May 7, 2019
Saturday, February 2, 2019
Toxic Dreams You May Have Fallen For
Lauren
Greenfield—photographer, documentarian and author of the new book Generation Wealth—talks about the pitfall so many of us just can't
seem to avoid.
SW: You've documented hundreds of subjects: the German-born hedge fund wizard who's wanted by the FBI for fraud; strippers in Las Vegas; rap artists in Atlanta; Russian socialites. Why?
LG: I've often looked at the extremes as a way to shed light on the mainstream. Even though everybody says, "Money doesn't buy you happiness," I don't think that that's the principle by which people live. If you talk to kids and ask them what they want to be when they grow up, they say, "Rich and famous," but being rich and famous is not a job.
SW: How has what we want out of life changed in the past quarter century since you started out?
LG: We've gone from a culture that valued social mobility through hard work and education to a culture that values bling and celebrity. Now, it doesn't matter how you get the money, as long as you have it. Actually, it almost doesn't matter if you have it as long as you look like you have it.
SW: Still, a lot of people would say, "I'm not like that. I'm happy with what I have." Are there more subtle ways that we're all participating in this competition?
LG: We're living in this fantasy where we're comparing ourselves to celebrities, as if their lifestyles are normal. We watch more and more TV, and research shows that the more TV you watch, the wealthier you think other people are compared to yourself. And marketing is so clever. There's something for everybody. This minimalist trend in home décor allows educated, cultured, middle-class people to kind of justify their own materialism. Having less and giving things away is a goal, but what we see in a magazine like Dwell not only is very expensive to achieve but also requires a huge amount of maintenance, which for people with jobs and kids is not that easy. It's another way to sort of fetishize our environment. Design has made it so that the house we live in is not just a safe place to raise our family, which it was in the old days, but it's actually this...fashion statement. It's like a designer dress. It's really another side of the same coin.
SW: Do you fall into that trap?
LG: I stopped at Target the other day to do an errand, and almost unconsciously I picked up a cart, and before 10 minutes had passed, I had 10 items in my cart. At the self-serve checkout, an item came up as $52. My son said, "What is that?" And I said, "Oh, it's face cream." He said, "Put that back." I didn't argue with him because he was right. I was falling for some anti-aging face cream that I had not planned on purchasing. It's hard not to be influenced by these pressures in your daily life—whether you're actually buying or just admiring, or whether they're making you feel inadequate just by their existence.
SW: What have you taken away from all these stories?
LG: I still go into a store and want those things and still even buy them. But I do feel that if we spend a little time trying to understand the forces we often act upon unconsciously, it allows us a little power at least to choose: Do I want to give in to this or not?
Lauren Greenfield is an acclaimed documentary photographer and filmmaker. She is the author of Generation Wealth and other works about consumerism and young people.
By Susan Welsh
Lauren Greenfield has spent 25 years exploring what one of her subjects calls
the "toxic dream": the pursuit of wealth, everlasting youth and,
sometimes, fame. She's recorded images and stories of all sorts of people
around the world, from a 60-year-old California paralegal who spent her way
into homelessness, to celebrities and wannabe celebrities (like Kacey Jordan, the
prostitute whose business enjoyed a boost after she spent a drug-fuelled 36
hours with Charlie Sheen). As the book’s editor, and as an old friend of
Lauren's, I jumped at the chance to speak to her about why, even if we're not
building a 90,000-square-foot house in Orlando like the subjects of her
documentary The Queen of Versailles, we still might have fallen into the trap
of wanting more than we can afford.
SW: You've documented hundreds of subjects: the German-born hedge fund wizard who's wanted by the FBI for fraud; strippers in Las Vegas; rap artists in Atlanta; Russian socialites. Why?
LG: I've often looked at the extremes as a way to shed light on the mainstream. Even though everybody says, "Money doesn't buy you happiness," I don't think that that's the principle by which people live. If you talk to kids and ask them what they want to be when they grow up, they say, "Rich and famous," but being rich and famous is not a job.
SW: How has what we want out of life changed in the past quarter century since you started out?
LG: We've gone from a culture that valued social mobility through hard work and education to a culture that values bling and celebrity. Now, it doesn't matter how you get the money, as long as you have it. Actually, it almost doesn't matter if you have it as long as you look like you have it.
SW: Still, a lot of people would say, "I'm not like that. I'm happy with what I have." Are there more subtle ways that we're all participating in this competition?
LG: We're living in this fantasy where we're comparing ourselves to celebrities, as if their lifestyles are normal. We watch more and more TV, and research shows that the more TV you watch, the wealthier you think other people are compared to yourself. And marketing is so clever. There's something for everybody. This minimalist trend in home décor allows educated, cultured, middle-class people to kind of justify their own materialism. Having less and giving things away is a goal, but what we see in a magazine like Dwell not only is very expensive to achieve but also requires a huge amount of maintenance, which for people with jobs and kids is not that easy. It's another way to sort of fetishize our environment. Design has made it so that the house we live in is not just a safe place to raise our family, which it was in the old days, but it's actually this...fashion statement. It's like a designer dress. It's really another side of the same coin.
SW: Do you fall into that trap?
LG: I stopped at Target the other day to do an errand, and almost unconsciously I picked up a cart, and before 10 minutes had passed, I had 10 items in my cart. At the self-serve checkout, an item came up as $52. My son said, "What is that?" And I said, "Oh, it's face cream." He said, "Put that back." I didn't argue with him because he was right. I was falling for some anti-aging face cream that I had not planned on purchasing. It's hard not to be influenced by these pressures in your daily life—whether you're actually buying or just admiring, or whether they're making you feel inadequate just by their existence.
SW: What have you taken away from all these stories?
LG: I still go into a store and want those things and still even buy them. But I do feel that if we spend a little time trying to understand the forces we often act upon unconsciously, it allows us a little power at least to choose: Do I want to give in to this or not?
Lauren Greenfield is an acclaimed documentary photographer and filmmaker. She is the author of Generation Wealth and other works about consumerism and young people.
Retire in your Fourties
How
This Couple is Doing It.
Farnoosh
Torabi, the host of the So Money podcast, introduces
you to a couple who will inspire you to rev up your retirement savings. By Farnoosh Torabi
The
husband and wife team, Mr. and Mrs. 1500— anonymous ‘Carl and Mindy’—are
documenting their journey to financial independence on their blog 1500days.com. Their goal was to have a portfolio of $1 million by February 2017,
1,500 days after launching in January 2013.
They surpassed that goal in about 1,300 days. How are they making the wise choices to aggressively saving that amount?
The couple, both in their early 40s, share their tactics and what's next.
FT (Farnoosh Torabi): Why did you want to embark on this journey and why did you give yourself a goal of 1,500 days? How did you know that it was actually achievable?
Carl: I'm a computer programmer. It can be very, very stressful at times. It was a bad day and the thought that came into my head, I was 38 at the time, I'm like, "There's no way I can do this until I'm 62 or 65 or whatever age people normally retire at." I Googled something like: How do I retire early? Or, How do I quit my job early? And the first thing that popped up was Mr. Money Mustache.
I started reading through his stuff and my first thought was, "This guy retired at like 31 or 32, this has got to be some kind of pyramid scheme or something like this. No one retires before they're 62," and then I started reading it, and I realize that the guy was legitimate. He put all his numbers out there, and there really wasn't anything that he did that was spectacular or abnormal. He just constricted his spending, lived a frugal life and was able to quit.
The first thing I did after that was figure out how much I spent—I did this within like 10 minutes. I figured out how much we spend every year. Using his post about "The 4% rule," I figured out how much we would need to retire. I ran down to the kitchen and I told Mindy, "Hey, all the stuff will work I can quit my job in 1,500 days."
FT: With your $1 million goal, how are you planning to, in your new life, make the most of it?
Carl: We live in a very low-cost area of Colorado. Our property taxes are $1,000 a year. Life is pretty cheap here and we can get by with about $2,000 a month. We take nice vacations. We've been to Hawaii three or four times—we travel hack to do it. I think we're going to be able to continue to save even after we retire.
That million dollars doesn't count other sources of income. It doesn't count Social Security, which I think will still be around in 20 years, maybe in diminished form but I think we'll still have it. Our side gigs are probably going to bring in income too. It might not be a whole lot but when you're not living on a whole lot, you don't need a whole lot to really move the needle.
FT: You have a million in savings now, which is earning interest and then if you bring in some side income to kind of just pay the bills, that's a pretty nice cushion. What are your side gigs?
Carl: The blog is my main side gig and Mindy actually got a job through my blog, which is ironic because she didn't think it was a good idea in the first place so now she has a great job, as a result to the blog. I also do lots of home rehabbing, which I enjoy.
FT: I'm looking at your blog actually, and you are very transparent. You talk about your investments where you started in 2013 with $586,000 and now today, you have a net worth of about $1.3 million—you almost doubled where you started. You more than doubled actually. I don't understand though how you went from $586,000 in year one to $869,000 a year later.
Carl: Yeah, that's crazy.
FT: $300,000 almost, are you making a million dollars a year? How did you save that much?
Carl: No, there are two things that really helped. One of them is serendipitous—we bought a house for really cheap. It was a foreclosure in a really great neighborhood but for some reason, no one wanted this. Well I know the reason, it was horrific. So we fixed that up, we bought it for about $176,000 and now we could probably get over $400,000 for it and that was a lot of hard work on us, we're still working on it to this day. The other thing, which I don't like to talk about because I don't like to give people bad ideas, but I've made some good stock picks. I don't endorse it, and it's not my new methodology, but I bought 2,000 shares at Facebook at like $30 a share and now it's like $120 a share. I'm an index-fund guy now.
FT: Your investments when you count your net worth of $1.35 million—that includes equity?
Carl: Yeah it does. My pure stock value investment without that is about $1,120,000 right now.
FT: Can you share your aggressive investment strategy? When do you plan to tap this money?
Carl: I think I'll have to tap my portfolio soon after I leave, especially when Mindy leaves her job. So I'm extremely aggressive, I think I own $25,000 in bonds, and that was a very recent development. The way I look at it is, there's a lot of time to recover if something disastrous happened on day one of retirement. The thing I would do is just go back to work or I could drive for Uber if I don't want to work full time.
FT: What would be your advice to someone who is getting a later start?
Carl: When people ask me that, I tell people the very first thing they should do is write down every single expense in a notebook because you'll be surprised. We started doing this and we're like, "Wow, we spent that much on groceries? What were we thinking?" After you do that, evaluate every one of those line items and see how you can cut those down. The first thing is always to cut expenses because that's easy and that's something you can do immediately and right now, today.
After that, increase in income isn't always as easy but most of us don't work more than 40 hours a week. There are all these new things and this new peer economy that people can do. How about you drive for Uber or Lyft? How about you rent out a spare room in your house through Airbnb? There [are] all kinds of little tweaks you can do to increase your income. Those are the two things I do. Cut expenses first and try to increase your income.
They surpassed that goal in about 1,300 days. How are they making the wise choices to aggressively saving that amount?
The couple, both in their early 40s, share their tactics and what's next.
FT (Farnoosh Torabi): Why did you want to embark on this journey and why did you give yourself a goal of 1,500 days? How did you know that it was actually achievable?
Carl: I'm a computer programmer. It can be very, very stressful at times. It was a bad day and the thought that came into my head, I was 38 at the time, I'm like, "There's no way I can do this until I'm 62 or 65 or whatever age people normally retire at." I Googled something like: How do I retire early? Or, How do I quit my job early? And the first thing that popped up was Mr. Money Mustache.
I started reading through his stuff and my first thought was, "This guy retired at like 31 or 32, this has got to be some kind of pyramid scheme or something like this. No one retires before they're 62," and then I started reading it, and I realize that the guy was legitimate. He put all his numbers out there, and there really wasn't anything that he did that was spectacular or abnormal. He just constricted his spending, lived a frugal life and was able to quit.
The first thing I did after that was figure out how much I spent—I did this within like 10 minutes. I figured out how much we spend every year. Using his post about "The 4% rule," I figured out how much we would need to retire. I ran down to the kitchen and I told Mindy, "Hey, all the stuff will work I can quit my job in 1,500 days."
FT: With your $1 million goal, how are you planning to, in your new life, make the most of it?
Carl: We live in a very low-cost area of Colorado. Our property taxes are $1,000 a year. Life is pretty cheap here and we can get by with about $2,000 a month. We take nice vacations. We've been to Hawaii three or four times—we travel hack to do it. I think we're going to be able to continue to save even after we retire.
That million dollars doesn't count other sources of income. It doesn't count Social Security, which I think will still be around in 20 years, maybe in diminished form but I think we'll still have it. Our side gigs are probably going to bring in income too. It might not be a whole lot but when you're not living on a whole lot, you don't need a whole lot to really move the needle.
FT: You have a million in savings now, which is earning interest and then if you bring in some side income to kind of just pay the bills, that's a pretty nice cushion. What are your side gigs?
Carl: The blog is my main side gig and Mindy actually got a job through my blog, which is ironic because she didn't think it was a good idea in the first place so now she has a great job, as a result to the blog. I also do lots of home rehabbing, which I enjoy.
FT: I'm looking at your blog actually, and you are very transparent. You talk about your investments where you started in 2013 with $586,000 and now today, you have a net worth of about $1.3 million—you almost doubled where you started. You more than doubled actually. I don't understand though how you went from $586,000 in year one to $869,000 a year later.
Carl: Yeah, that's crazy.
FT: $300,000 almost, are you making a million dollars a year? How did you save that much?
Carl: No, there are two things that really helped. One of them is serendipitous—we bought a house for really cheap. It was a foreclosure in a really great neighborhood but for some reason, no one wanted this. Well I know the reason, it was horrific. So we fixed that up, we bought it for about $176,000 and now we could probably get over $400,000 for it and that was a lot of hard work on us, we're still working on it to this day. The other thing, which I don't like to talk about because I don't like to give people bad ideas, but I've made some good stock picks. I don't endorse it, and it's not my new methodology, but I bought 2,000 shares at Facebook at like $30 a share and now it's like $120 a share. I'm an index-fund guy now.
FT: Your investments when you count your net worth of $1.35 million—that includes equity?
Carl: Yeah it does. My pure stock value investment without that is about $1,120,000 right now.
FT: Can you share your aggressive investment strategy? When do you plan to tap this money?
Carl: I think I'll have to tap my portfolio soon after I leave, especially when Mindy leaves her job. So I'm extremely aggressive, I think I own $25,000 in bonds, and that was a very recent development. The way I look at it is, there's a lot of time to recover if something disastrous happened on day one of retirement. The thing I would do is just go back to work or I could drive for Uber if I don't want to work full time.
FT: What would be your advice to someone who is getting a later start?
Carl: When people ask me that, I tell people the very first thing they should do is write down every single expense in a notebook because you'll be surprised. We started doing this and we're like, "Wow, we spent that much on groceries? What were we thinking?" After you do that, evaluate every one of those line items and see how you can cut those down. The first thing is always to cut expenses because that's easy and that's something you can do immediately and right now, today.
After that, increase in income isn't always as easy but most of us don't work more than 40 hours a week. There are all these new things and this new peer economy that people can do. How about you drive for Uber or Lyft? How about you rent out a spare room in your house through Airbnb? There [are] all kinds of little tweaks you can do to increase your income. Those are the two things I do. Cut expenses first and try to increase your income.
Keys to Thriving Financially as a Single Mom
Emmy Johnson, the
author shares what it takes to achieve wealth and thrive.
There are three
critical components to thriving financially as a single mom, all of
which you can control:
1. Use the time + money + energy equation to create abundance in every part of your life.
2. Create a lifestyle that you can afford now (not when you were married, or where you hope to be in a few years. Now.), including a savings plan for emergencies and retirement.
3. Focus on earning.
This is a recipe for wealth that affects all areas of life, and nearly every decision you will make. All three elements — earning, budget, and resources spent — are all intimately intertwined. To understand how, let’s look at the last one.
Focus on earning
When you’re going through a life change, whether divorce, death of a loved one, new baby, job change, relocation, in the likely event that money, time and/or human resources are reduced, the natural impulse is to tighten up and hunker down. Frugality is a wonderful, powerful thing—one I urge you to cultivate and maintain throughout your life, even when you have money coming out your ears. Frugality has nothing to do with how much you earn or spend, and everything to do about being conscientious about your resources—money and otherwise—and managing them with a sense of gratitude and abundance to make your life and the world around you better.
Frugality, however, can be a slippery slope to a scarcity mentality. Scarcity mentality is the belief that all your resources—money, jobs, love—are limited and must be hoarded. Here’s a classic example: Your husband announces he’s having an affair, and leaves within a week. He earns more than half the household income, all of which he takes with him when he moves out of the house he shared with you and your two kids, and into the apartment of his mistress. You, understandably, panic. Your bills are beyond what you can afford on your own. The payment on your house is huge. Your name is on the mortgage, which puts your credit at risk.
You quickly go through the monthly expenses and start slashing like mad. That is exactly what you should do! Gym membership that you never use, canceled! Tell the kids that this time you will indeed enforce the household rule that the thermostat will not go above 66 degrees in the winter, commit to doing your own nails and cancel the Christmas trip to the Bahamas.
Is this you?
I’m loving this story, and it is exactly
what you should be doing (though, 68 degrees maybe?).
However, let’s look at the math. Aside from the vacation, those cut-backs add up to a couple hundred dollars per month. That is not going to make a significant difference in your ability to afford what was a two-income household, much less afford a large mortgage that was financed with two salaries.
A common mistake is when people panic—and moms are especially prone to this—they focus on how much they can save each month. Savings and frugal living are passions of mine, and comes with all kids of residual benefits aside from immediate cost savings. In fact, I argue you should NOT clip coupons. Clipping coupons requires hours per month with very little return on investment of that time. Instead, the absolute best, proven way to get ahead financially in the short- and long-term, build wealth, take control of your time, and have the freedom to create a life for yourself and your kids is to focus on earning.
Let’s say that in addition to slashing the fat from your budget, renegotiate your phone plan and commit to a few Crockpot dinners in lieu of take-out each month, that newly single mom also commits to a plan to earn more money. The residual benefits are astronomic.
In the example above, if the mom after receiving the “Peace Out” bomb from her kids’ dad, committed her lunch hour and Saturday afternoons to freshening up her resume, working her network like crazy, applying for new positions and / or strategizing with her boss about her career goals. Within a few months it is very reasonable she could increase her income by five-figures—income very much needed immediately, and have residual financial and professional benefits for the rest of her life. Plus, by focusing not on the Sunday Clipper, but on big goals and investing in her own worth, she actually gains very real control over a chaotic situation.
Many women find that single motherhood is a fantastic motivator for driving them to risk going for their professional goals—and earning a lot of money along the way. Christina Brown, 28, launched LoveBrownSugar.com, a lifestyle blog for women of color, as a hobby project while she earned about $50,000 per year working in public relations in New York City. When she became pregnant, and a single mom, Christina jumped fulltime into her entrepreneurial endeavor. “I had to kick it into high gear when found out I was having a baby, and was a big motivator to earn to take care of her.” Motherhood drove Christina to increase her blog’s adverting rates, double down on strategy, and button up her processes. Within three years, LoveBrownSugar.com went from $0 to $100,000 in revenue, while Christina works from home and spends lots of time with her daughter, who often models toddler fashion on her mom’s web sites.
Money, of course, isn’t just about surviving, paying bills, securing a future and enjoying nice things. Building a great career you love, modeling that passion and success for your children, is incredibly satisfying — especially when you accomplish it in the face of what you believed was impossible.
Adapted from THE KICKASS SINGLE MOM by Emma Johnson with the permission of TarcherPerigee, an imprint of Penguin Random House. Copyright © 2017 by Emma Johnson.
However, let’s look at the math. Aside from the vacation, those cut-backs add up to a couple hundred dollars per month. That is not going to make a significant difference in your ability to afford what was a two-income household, much less afford a large mortgage that was financed with two salaries.
A common mistake is when people panic—and moms are especially prone to this—they focus on how much they can save each month. Savings and frugal living are passions of mine, and comes with all kids of residual benefits aside from immediate cost savings. In fact, I argue you should NOT clip coupons. Clipping coupons requires hours per month with very little return on investment of that time. Instead, the absolute best, proven way to get ahead financially in the short- and long-term, build wealth, take control of your time, and have the freedom to create a life for yourself and your kids is to focus on earning.
Let’s say that in addition to slashing the fat from your budget, renegotiate your phone plan and commit to a few Crockpot dinners in lieu of take-out each month, that newly single mom also commits to a plan to earn more money. The residual benefits are astronomic.
In the example above, if the mom after receiving the “Peace Out” bomb from her kids’ dad, committed her lunch hour and Saturday afternoons to freshening up her resume, working her network like crazy, applying for new positions and / or strategizing with her boss about her career goals. Within a few months it is very reasonable she could increase her income by five-figures—income very much needed immediately, and have residual financial and professional benefits for the rest of her life. Plus, by focusing not on the Sunday Clipper, but on big goals and investing in her own worth, she actually gains very real control over a chaotic situation.
Many women find that single motherhood is a fantastic motivator for driving them to risk going for their professional goals—and earning a lot of money along the way. Christina Brown, 28, launched LoveBrownSugar.com, a lifestyle blog for women of color, as a hobby project while she earned about $50,000 per year working in public relations in New York City. When she became pregnant, and a single mom, Christina jumped fulltime into her entrepreneurial endeavor. “I had to kick it into high gear when found out I was having a baby, and was a big motivator to earn to take care of her.” Motherhood drove Christina to increase her blog’s adverting rates, double down on strategy, and button up her processes. Within three years, LoveBrownSugar.com went from $0 to $100,000 in revenue, while Christina works from home and spends lots of time with her daughter, who often models toddler fashion on her mom’s web sites.
Money, of course, isn’t just about surviving, paying bills, securing a future and enjoying nice things. Building a great career you love, modeling that passion and success for your children, is incredibly satisfying — especially when you accomplish it in the face of what you believed was impossible.
Adapted from THE KICKASS SINGLE MOM by Emma Johnson with the permission of TarcherPerigee, an imprint of Penguin Random House. Copyright © 2017 by Emma Johnson.
Read more: http://www.oprah.com/money/emmy-johnson-3-keys-to-thriving-financially-as-a-single-mom#ixzz4wLYFU954
Ideas from the Super Rich
Just Because You Can Pay For It,
Doesn't Mean You Should
When Paul
Sullivan was doing research for his new book The Thin Green Line: The Money
Secrets of the Super Wealthy,
he and Brad Klontz, PsyD, a clinical psychologist at Kansas State University,
examined the differences between people in the top five-to-10 percent income
bracket and those in the top one percent. Both groups spent about the same
percentage of their incomes on food, housing and other areas, with a few
surprising exceptions. The most notable: Those in the top one percent spent 30
percent less of their money eating out at restaurants. Sullivan noticed similar
restraint in many of his interviews with very wealthy people who, for instance,
chose an Audi over the BMW, "If you're driving a 10-year-old beater, this
may not seem like a huge sacrifice, but considering the price difference—which
can be anywhere from $2,000 to $20,000, depending on the model—it suggests they
don't spend quite as cavalierly as you might think."
Stick to a Budget—But for a Less Obvious Reason
Just as
diets aren't helpful only for people who need to lose weight,
budgets aren't important just for
those who need to save money. Allocating your funds into different categories
can be useful, no matter your income. Sullivan writes about the University of
Chicago economist Richard Thaler, who was surprised to find in his research
that the "money in jars" approach (i.e., put your income into
fictitious buckets designated for particular expenses—rent, food, savings,
travel—instead of thinking about it as one lump sum to be spent) is also
comforting to a person "with a hundred million dollars." He defines
wealthy as "having enough money that you don't have to worry about
money," so bucketing, because it helps assuage those worries, can be a
psychological tool to achieve that state.
Accept That Bad Things Happen
Accept That Bad Things Happen
Another
thing Sullivan and Klontz found in their research was that people in the top
one percent income bracket had a greater "internal locus of
control"—a psychology term that translates to seeing your life outcome as
being determined by your own actions. Lower earners had an "external locus
of control," believing their outcomes were unrelated to their behaviors,
or the result of chance or luck (often bad). Sullivan says he sees this in
situations like getting fired to getting divorced—the very wealthy tend not to
let such setbacks deter them from their professional and financial goals.
Share It
Here's
something you may already have in common with the very wealthy, at least if
you're among those earning less than $100,000 who recently increased the percentage
of income donated to charity:
Self-made billionaires are generous, too, outdonating people who married into or inherited wealth. Maybe
they're more inclined to help others who are in situations they were once in
themselves (education tops the list of causes they support). Or perhaps they've
realized what self-made billionaire and "extreme philanthropist" Chuck Feeney would
say: "You'll get more satisfaction from [giving to charity] than having
houses you'll never live in, or yachts that you can't spend your time on."
Hard Times... and Prospering By Degrees
Thoughts after participating in the Durban Stake Marrieds fireside Jan 2019 - Sister Bray (Durban Temple Construction Site Missionary)
You are
free to choose financial ‘liberty’ or you will suffer ‘captivity.’
Your finances
and resource management are your personal stewardships. Take them seriously.
“You
don’t want to live poor and die rich, nor do you want to live rich and retire
poor.” T Hollis
Learn
from the Spirit. Learn from others. Keep learning. Be patient.
Read. Listen. Watch.
Ask.
You can Buy Now and Cry Later J - L –
Or you can Cry Now and Buy Later L - J.
Or you can Cry Now and Buy Later L - J.
O be
wise, what can I say more? Jacob 6:12
Every Price
has a Prize, every Prize a Price.
Every
Cost has a Benefit, and every Benefit a Cost.
Learn to
pay the Price in a PLAN - think, be disciplined in and for the Financial Prizes
you want.
Pray
about your finances.
Be
grateful for your income.
Learn to
be content with what you have at the moment. “… be content with your wages.”
Luke 3:14
Paul said “…I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to
be content.” Phillipians 4:11
Use a
budget – every month – include provision for annual, and inevitable ‘surprise’
expenses.
Save for
Christmas and birthdays all year – give gifts you can afford.
Give some
gifts that cost no money, or little money – your presence, time, talents, wisdom.
Ask
someone who is sensible about money to help you if/when you need help.
Ask other
people anyway – they might have ideas you never thought of.
Listen. Let the Spirit confirm what 'fits' for you, now - all along the way.
Each
person needs money to purchase and account for, and pocket-money they don’t
account for.
Each
adult an equal amount, each child an amount appropriate to their age.
Have financial discussions with your spouse and children.
Require children to 'earn' some of their pocket money - chores, entrepreneurial ventures.
Notice. Ask
around!
Let the holy Spirit guide...
Pay your
tithing. Malachi 3:10 (Every month, or week, if you are paid
weekly.)
Pay off all
your debts as soon as you possibly can. (Find out how.)
Get debt counselling if necessary.
“No debt”
– ever again – for food, commuting, clothing, garden and household furniture
and goods.
Save 10%
of your income for your old age/retirement – ideally from the day you earn your
first Rand.
Always
review… and legitimately - reduce expenditure, and increase your income, as you
are able.
Be
patient with your needs, wants, begging, bullying, pleas and demands; and those
of others.
Be not
swayed by bragging, mocking, shaming, temptation, advertising, or personalities.
Learn how to, and then live well, on an absence of expense.
Do
something every day to improve yourself and where you live right now.
Keep
yourself, your space/home, possessions and vehicle orderly, clean, neat, and attractive.
Pray. Think.
Spend a share of your labour on cleaning, mending, putting in order and
beautifying.
Spend no
money on 'things' when you do not have money budgeted and saved to spend.
Grow some of your own food.
Prepare a patch in your yard, or a pot or two on your windowsill. or veranda
Walk around your neighbourhood.
See how and what grows in your area.
See who grows successfully.
Ask your gardening neighbours who are doing well with their crops.
Yes, the seeds, and water may cost more than buying...
Ask for a few seeds. Most will share three or five or more.
Start small - like with spinach, maybe beans and tomatoes.
Gardening is therapeutic. It will help you "be still." Psalm 46:10
"You are nearer God's heart in a garden than any place else on earth." - Dorothy Frances Gurney
He will comfort you, talk to you, and teach you as you work in your garden.
Teach your children how to work with the soil.
If you ever have to live on what you can cultivate yourself, you will know how to.
Grow some of your own food.
Prepare a patch in your yard, or a pot or two on your windowsill. or veranda
Walk around your neighbourhood.
See how and what grows in your area.
See who grows successfully.
Ask your gardening neighbours who are doing well with their crops.
Yes, the seeds, and water may cost more than buying...
Ask for a few seeds. Most will share three or five or more.
Start small - like with spinach, maybe beans and tomatoes.
Gardening is therapeutic. It will help you "be still." Psalm 46:10
"You are nearer God's heart in a garden than any place else on earth." - Dorothy Frances Gurney
He will comfort you, talk to you, and teach you as you work in your garden.
Teach your children how to work with the soil.
If you ever have to live on what you can cultivate yourself, you will know how to.
Ask yourself "How did they do it 20/50/100 years ago?"
Is it wise to do as they did, for now?
Is it wise to do as they did, for now?
Learn,
read, find out the truths about finance – “prospering by degrees” has principles
and laws.
Find and
consult regularly with several virtual and people financial mentors.
(Join the library. Research on the internet.)
Read the Liahona/Ensign, New Era and Friend magazines - on line. Frequently there are useful ideas.
Research in Gospel Library for articles, talks, devotionals on debt and financial management.
Govern
your wants – until you have “sufficient for your needs, and thereafter - enough to share.”
Work towards
this prosperity formula (It might prove to be useful) -
Learn to live on 60% of your income:
10%
tithing
10%
old-age/retirement saving
10%
legitimate family and/or charity sharing (beware of enabling others to
be dependent/reckless)
10%
short term saving before purchasing specific large budget items
Learn to
say “We will when we can afford it. We
can’t afford this now. We will save for
it.”
Learn to
say “No.” to yourself and others. “I
would if I could… I am not able to.”
Never shop
when you are hungry or tired.
Shop consciously,
with a rational and realistic list.
If you
are compulsive or addicted to shopping/spending, get help.
Live within your means.
Pay
‘cash’ for more and more (if you use cards or accounts, pay them off, in full,
every month.)
Cut up
your cards, close your accounts - if you can’t pay them off, in full, every
month, without fail.
Get good "marks" in your work or studies so you qualify for training, scholarships or bursaries.
Apply
for learnerships and PEF. (Perpetual Education Fund)
Only owe
money for affordable education, affordable housing, and affordable transport.
Move closer to work, or work closer to home whenever possible.
Remember - each move you make costs money. Consider the costs ... now, and over time.
Remember - each move you make costs money. Consider the costs ... now, and over time.
Holiday from home. Take day trips you can afford. Borrow or rent a movie. Play games together.
Walk around the block, in a park or at the beach.
Have an ice cream cone rather than a meal out.
If you can't afford an ice-cream cone, don't suggest it.
Have an ice cream cone rather than a meal out.
If you can't afford an ice-cream cone, don't suggest it.
(More can come later as you can afford more – paid with interest you earn
on your investments.)
Many
things don’t cost money or cost little money – learn to notice them and enjoy
them.
If you
don’t have money, don’t spend money.
Take a packed lunch.
Eat more economical meals – at home.
Consider
wise second hand purchases – buy more used ‘things’ – car, furniture, clothes,
household goods.
Don’t
compare yourself to others – you have no idea what’s behind their outward
appearance.
Focus on
learning how, and making your money work for
you.
“Eat out”
less. “Go out” less. “Take away/Entertain in/picnic” more often
than “sit down/go out.”
Resist
sales. If you don’t need it (for now), it is not a bargain.
Build up
your food, clothing, fuel and other “storage” gradually – build up to one year’s
supply.
Save one
month’s income, then save another, until you have about eight months’ emergency
saving.
If you
have two incomes, work towards living on one.
Save as much of the other income as possible.
Check – a second full-time income may not be worth the expense, time and talent lost in the home.
Consider the cost of travel, child-care, housekeeper, gardening, clothes, wear and tear, fast-foods, appeals, temptation, time.
Perhaps part time or self-employment will yield better time at home and net disposable income.
Save
money in separate accounts in the name of each person/partner.
(If you are married Ante Nuptial Contract and one leaves//dies, the other
has money to use while arrangements are made.)
Learn to
do more home-making and comfortable-living things yourself – be more
self-reliant.
This is also
an opportunity to learn and teach children valuable life-lessons.
Saved
money by ‘doing it yourself’ is money that does not have to be taxed, and can
be saved.
Save
coins and notes. “A penny saved is a
penny earned.” Bank them.
Ask your
wise friends, family and associates for the best places to save your money.
Joseph’s dream – the time of ‘plenty’ is the time to
save/store for the inevitable times of ‘scarcity.’
“Render
unto Caesar the things that are Caesar’s and unto God the things that are
God’s.” Romans
13:1
“Pay the debt thou hast contracted… release thyself from bondage.” D&C 19:35
“…the
borrower is servant to the lender.” Proverbs
22:7
“Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that
there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the LORD of
hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a
blessing, that there shall not be room enough to
receive it.” Malachi 3:10
“Prove all things, hold fast to that which is good.” 1 Thessalonians 5:1
“Prove all things, hold fast to that which is good.” 1 Thessalonians 5:1
“Have not I commanded thee? Be strong
and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD
thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.” Joshua 1:9
“Take heed unto yourselves, lest ye forget the covenant of the LORD
your God, which he made with you, and make you a graven image, or the
likeness of any thing, which the LORD thy God hath forbidden thee.”
Deuteronomy 4:23
“Now therefore fear the LORD, and serve him in sincerity and in
truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the
flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the LORD.” Joshua 24:14
“…if ye are prepared ye shall not fear.” D&C 38:30
Listen to the still small voice, let the Holy Spirit guide you,
learn to say “Thy will, not mine, be done.”
Laws are irrevocably decreed in heaven upon which all blessings are predicated. D&C 130:10
“Use it
up, wear it out, make it do, do without.” Pioneer maxim quoted by Boyd K Packer“
“It is a rule ..
. in all the world that interest is to be paid on borrowed money. …
Interest never sleeps nor sickens nor dies; it never goes to the hospital;
it works on Sundays and holidays; it never takes a vacation; it never visits nor travels . . .
it has no love, no sympathy; it is as hard and soulless as a granite cliff.
Once in debt, interest is your companion every minute of the day and night;
you cannot shun it or slip away from it; you cannot dismiss it;
it yields neither to entreaties, demands nor orders;
and whenever you get in its way or cross its course or fail to meet its demands, it crushes you.”
― J. Reuben Clark Jr. General Conference 1938
Interest never sleeps nor sickens nor dies; it never goes to the hospital;
it works on Sundays and holidays; it never takes a vacation; it never visits nor travels . . .
it has no love, no sympathy; it is as hard and soulless as a granite cliff.
Once in debt, interest is your companion every minute of the day and night;
you cannot shun it or slip away from it; you cannot dismiss it;
it yields neither to entreaties, demands nor orders;
and whenever you get in its way or cross its course or fail to meet its demands, it crushes you.”
― J. Reuben Clark Jr. General Conference 1938
“Those who understand interest earn it, those
who don’t, pay it.” Albert Einstein
“We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to
impress people we don't like.”
“You must gain control
over your money or the lack of it will forever control you.”
“Winning at money is 80 percent
behavior and 20 percent head knowledge.
What to do isn’t the problem; doing
it is.
Most of us know what to do, but
we just don’t do it.
If I can control the guy in the
mirror, I can be skinny and rich.” - Dave Ramsey
"Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure
nineteen [pounds] nineteen [shillings] and six [pence], result happiness.
Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds nought
[shillings] and six [pence], result misery." Charles Dickens – author of
“David Copperfield”
Dickens's vivid description could easily be applied
to the dangers of payday loans today.
“This pleasant grandfather, …was a horny-skinned,
two-legged, money-getting species of spider who spun webs to catch unwary flies…
until they were entrapped. The name of this old pagan's god was Compound
Interest." Charles Dickens, author of “Bleak House” (Make Compound Interest work FOR you!)
Most great
fortunes are built slowly. They are based on the principle of compound interest,
what Albert Einstein called, "The greatest power in the universe." -
Brian Tracy
“My father’s father died when he was 11 and
his mother when he was 17. He was able
to inherit an old valve radio from his parents. I inherited R3000 from my mother when she died
(I was in my forties) and R300,000 from my father when he died (I was in my
fifties.) Our children will inherit a
lot more from us when we die (We are in our seventies.)” - Victoria Payne
You can ‘eat’ your money, ‘live’ in it,
‘drive’ in it, ‘wear’ it, ‘travel’ it, 'squander' it, ‘share’ it.
Few can do all of these.
“Correlate, Reduce, Simplify.”
“Reduce, Re-use, Recycle, Refuse.”
Compost your compostable kitchen waste.
Compost your compostable kitchen waste.
There are useful books and on-line
resources to learn sound money principles, debt and saving.
Ask wise ones around you for names of books
and sites they recommend. Most are glad to share.
God bless you as you “increase in
wisdom and stature, in favour with God and man.” Luke 2:52
God bless you as you resist being
“lifted up in pride… and (wearing) costly apparel.” 4 Nephi 1:24,25
God bless you to “Awake… put on thy strength…” Isaiah 52:1
God bless you as you “prosper by
degrees.” Mosiah 21:16
“But before ye seek for riches, seek ye
for the kingdom of God.
And after ye have obtained a hope in Christ ye shall
obtain riches, if ye seek them;
and ye will seek them for the intent to do good—to
clothe the naked, and to feed the hungry,
and to liberate the captive, and administer relief to the
sick and the afflicted.” Jacob 2:18,19
Tuesday, January 29, 2019
Surprising habits of the super rich
By: Andrew
Woodward
When I was
younger I was living under an illusion that shaped what I thought I wanted in
life.
But I've
realised I've been lied to.
Rich people
might look like they live extravagant lives, always dressed in expensive
clothes and travelling in style ... but the people we're looking at as
"rich" are more likely "rich and famous",
and getting some
of these things loaned to them for the cameras.
In reality, most
rich people are actually quite frugal.
And if we want
financial freedom, we should emulate this frugality.
Frugal isn't exciting
Sometimes, being
frugal is referred to as being tight with your money and therefore comes
with a heap of
negative connotations. Who wants to be known as the tight one in the group,
right?
But the opposite
of frugal is described as wasteful.
When it comes to
money, being wasteful is reflected in lavish spending and hyper-consumption.
The problem we
have, and the basis of the illusion that we have been living under,
is that being
frugal isn't exciting.
It is a lot
easier and more fun for social media and television to promote flashy
lifestyles.
We are led to
believe that if you have money, you spend lavishly,
and if you don't
show it, you don't have it.
The more we
make, the more we want to spend.
It's the instant
gratification gene kicking in again.
Well, it turns
out the reality of the rich person is a completely different picture.
Live below your means
In my time
studying and researching smart rich people, one of the most striking lessons I
learned
is that they all live by one mantra: Live
below your means.
The rich
understand that it is difficult to support a high-consumption lifestyle and
become a
millionaire, or to achieve financial freedom.
So to manage
their spending, to achieve living below their means,
the rich all
have this rather surprising habit.
Not only do they
live below their means, they do it by being frugal in a smart way.
When it comes to
lifestyle spending, they are not like what you see on television or social
media.
Instead
they are more likely buying second-hand cars instead of new, or they are buying
clothes from the same shops that you and I do, and not from “Rodeo Drive.”
You see, the
lavish lifestyle can only be maintained
while you are earning the big money. If you aren't taking steps to build for your future, then eventually
the lavish lifestyle has to end.
There are many
examples of people who have suffered this outcome. It's been argued that
Michael Jackson,
a known hyper-spender, passed away virtually broke.
The reality of rich habits
Now I don't want
to paint a picture that getting rich is simple.
In fact, that is
part of the problem for most people.
They see the
actors, music and sports stars who come into large amounts of money quickly,
live the rich
lifestyle and think that is how success with money is achieved.
It is also why
get-rich-quick schemes are so successful in taking
your money.
People are
looking for the quick result.
However, the
reality is that the true rich people, the ones who start out just like you and
me,
they know they
have to work on their habits.
It's like a
runner that is fit — they run to stay fit
even though they don't look like they need to.
They have
developed discipline and understand that they have to keep it up to remain in
good condition.
Becoming rich
and achieving financial freedom is about traditional values of hard work,
discipline and, at times, sacrifice.
Living below
your means in modern society is very hard.
The desire to
keep up with your friends and the pull of instant gratification
are temptations
that are difficult to resist.
What I have
learned the hard way, is that the smart and efficient path to
financial freedom
is:
to live below
your means,
to be a
little frugal when it comes to your lifestyle and
to make these
your habits.
Next time you
are out, have a look around you. That person who looks just like you could very
well be a multi-millionaire enjoying the financially free lifestyle that you
are striving to achieve.
Andrew Woodward is a mindshift.money accredited money coach based in
Sydney who teaches people to take control of their money and invest for their
future, simply and efficiently.
Become a Better Spender in 20 Minutes or Less
Worth It: Your Life, Your Money, Your
Terms, - overcome overspending.
By Amanda Steinberg
Spending can be
joyful when it's done intentionally, but you need a strategy for the moments
when you're operating on autopilot. Being a money manager means going to Target
prepared! I'm not talking about austerity. I'm not against spending, or the
thrill of buying. I just want you to explore your habits in more depth. When
you spend with intention, I hope you'll buy less and save more.
Let's have some fun, shall we? I have a challenge for you.
This experiment isn't designed to reactivate your money story. When you hit those rough patches—and you will—observe, breathe, and keep going. Don't indulge the drama. By the end of the exercise, you will have a very good idea of where all that money goes and how to make mindful changes to your spending.
Ready to play?
Let's have some fun, shall we? I have a challenge for you.
This experiment isn't designed to reactivate your money story. When you hit those rough patches—and you will—observe, breathe, and keep going. Don't indulge the drama. By the end of the exercise, you will have a very good idea of where all that money goes and how to make mindful changes to your spending.
Ready to play?
Challenge: What
Did You Buy in the Past Three Days?
From memory first, think about where you've been the last three days. Did you drive anywhere or take the train? Were you at work, with kids, friends, or family? Did you eat at home or at a restaurant?
Write down what you bought and how much it cost (exclude fixed expenses like bills). Don't get lost in the rabbit hole of analysis. Include food, groceries, transportation, a pack of gum, emergency mascara, new sunglasses because you left yours on the train, iTunes or Amazon purchases.
Now, log in to your accounts and see how close you are to what you wrote down from memory. What have you learned about how much you spend and why?
It's enlightening to see where your money goes. When you write down what you spend, you start to see how often you spend on impulse. Who are you as a spender? That's what we're investigating. It's a key exercise that gives you deeper insights into your own habits and mind-set around spending.
Remember, Money Smart Ones don't judge.
They just observe.
Humans have known
for thousands of years that material gain does not create happiness.
Austerity
doesn't, either.
Padded savings accounts? Ecstasy. I swear.
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